Bicoastal Besties


One of the realizations that I have had since I graduated college, is that I am not near any of my best best friends. All of them are scattered all over the east coast and I am on the west coast. This makes being best friends incredibly difficult, because you cannot get together all of the time like you could at home or in college. So the question is, how do you maintain the status of best friends with people you do not see all of the time like you did before?

I think one thing that alleviates some of the issues with not being together all of the time is technology. As technology has developed, it has made it easier to stay in constant communication with your friends. You can text, FaceTime, Skype, oovoo, call, conference call, tweet things at them, post on their walls, use Whatsapp when you are out of the country, post pictures on Instagram, and so many other options. All of these options provide ways to contact your friends and show that you are still thinking of them, even though you are not in the same vicinity.

Something else I try to do is visit people once a year. This is an expensive option, but with the right flight deal and knowing that you can crash at their apartment, it definitely is worth the extra effort and cost. For me, knowing that I am going to have a weekend exactly like we were never apart is worth it. I sometimes am lonely because I do not have access to any of my best friends in driving or walking distance, and all of these methods make it easier on me.

If you have a bicoastal besties situation, let me know how you cope with it!

4 thoughts on “Bicoastal Besties

  1. I don’t have any friends that live on the opposite coast, but I’m on the west coast as well. Next year, all of my friends and I are splitting up to go to college and we are just being scattered all across the United States. It’s definitely going to be hard, but I am going to focus on making new friends while looking forward to the times that my friends and I have set to get back together again. I think it’s super important that there are actually set dates where someone is flying in to see the other so that there is something to look forward to.

  2. This post totally resonates with me! I moved to LA last year leaving 98% of everyone I know back in New Jersey or elsewhere on the east coast. Keeping in contact can be a struggle especially with older family members who don’t text… that’s essentially why I started documenting my LA life with a blog. As far as my friends go, we just constantly text and keep the group chats alive so we all don’t feel so far apart!

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